First off, only you can know for sure if you are ready. So if these results seem off, trust yourself. At the same time, most people who have done the work to get ready to date again tend to still feel a little hesitant when the time comes. So if that’s you, double check these results with a trusted friend who isn’t simply looking for someone to hit the clubs with. If they agree, then it’s probably time to start putting yourself out there again. But remember, just because you are ready to date, doesn’t mean you are ready for a committed relationship. That requires one other very important variable – the right person!

We’re guessing you’re not all that surprised to see these results. In fact, as you took the quiz, you probably had a sense for which questions were going to “out” you as someone who isn’t ready to date. On the other hand, there were likely some questions you felt good about answering. Knowing when you’re ready to date can be confusing, especially if you have friends who are telling you the best thing you can do it just “get back out there.” They mean well, but it’s better to trust yourself on this one, especially if the quiz results confirmed what you already knew. There’s no set timeline for healing after a relationship ends. What’s good for one person is likely not what’s best for another person. After all, the circumstances of your past relationship, how long it lasted, and why it ended all combine to make your situation unique. Here are few suggestions to help keep you moving on the path toward healing and eventual dating: 1) Identify someone you can trust to be both confidential and honest with you. That may be friend, a family member, or even a counselor. Talk with them about how you’re doing. Share the progress you’ve made, as well as your sticking points. Invite their feedback. If some of it’s hard to hear, you probably picked the right person. Thank them for caring enough to be there for you. And ask them if it’s okay to check in with them from time to time. 2) Set some goals. Based on your conversation and the questions from the quiz, make a list of “next steps” that you believe are realistic for you to accomplish over the next couple of months. Put the rest aside and just focus on that short list. Once you get to the end of the two months, evaluate and set new goals. 3) Find something you can put your heart into. Everyone needs a sense of purpose and meaning. We often get some of that from a relationship/marriage, but there are other great places to find it. That might be through work, joining an athletic team, a support group, or finding an organization you or individual you can serve. There is great healing and happiness in forgetting ourselves and looking to lift others.