Congrats, you are in a happy marriage. We know every marriage has its ups and downs, but being able to weather the storm and make improvements along the way is what makes marriages like yours last. You probably already know this, but making a habit to reflect on why you married your partner and what qualities about them you appreciate, can help deepen your gratitude and compassion for each other. The key to any happy marriage is making sure you are both getting what you need and you feel equally supported and appreciated. Keep up the good work and you’ll have many more happy years ahead.

Uh-oh, you might not be in a happy marriage. We know every marriage has its ups and downs, but if it's starting to feel like more downs than ups that can’t be easy. Making a habit to reflect on why you married your partner and what qualities about them you appreciate, can help deepen your gratitude and compassion for each other. If you find this task hard to do, it’s likely you’ve fallen into a pattern of focusing on the negative aspects of your marriage. If so, it’s okay. It happens to a lot of couples. But it’s important to work at turning things around or they will likely get worse. It might be best to begin thinking about talking with a marriage and family therapist. A qualified professional can help you and your partner learn to identify unhelpful patterns and help you find better ways to support one another. Even if your spouse is currently unwilling to see a therapist, a good marriage and family therapist can help you begin to recognize the patterns that keep you stuck, as well as how you can make changes to interrupt those old, unhelpful patterns. Just because you might be in an unhappy marriage now, doesn’t mean you can’t be in a happy marriage sometime soon. Take courage, have hope, and seek out the help you need. Happiness could be just around the corner.