My child didn't get invited to a playdate. My friends went to a movie without me. Just found out about another girl's night I wasn't invited to attend. Yep, these have all happened to me, but my feelings aren't hurt. I'm totally okay with these scenarios. I'm not just saying this while choking back tears and trying to be brave. Cross my heart and hope to die. Promise. I'm not bugged.

Every day I feel hundreds of emotions. Typically I wake up feeling tired. After I exercise I feel energized. As I say my prayers, I feel peace. My feelings change minute by minute. I can feel happy, angry, sad, lonely, energetic and guilty all within the same hour.

I allow myself to feel sad, lonely and upset. But I don't allow someone else to hurt my feelings. I simply refuse. Here are five reasons why:

1. Because I can

A couple of years ago, after the one millionth time feeling sorry for myself I decided I was done. I realized I had two options. I can feel sorry for myself or I can let it go. I can refuse to get my feelings hurt. I can't control what other people do, but I can control how it makes me feel.

2. I don't want to be a hypocrite

Nobody is perfect. My foot is in my mouth more than the average person. I know I unintentionally hurt other's feelings by the things I say and do each day. I hope they would be willing to let it go as quickly as I do.

3. I recognize most things aren't personal

I know my friends and family aren't going out of their way to hurt my feelings. I have neglected to invite someone to a party. It was simply an oversight, not a malicious act. I recognize I can't invite 30 kids to a playdate or 100 friends to a luncheon. I wish my home and sanity were big enough to do those things, but neither one can accommodate such huge numbers. I'd love for the world to sit in a big circle and sing Kum Ba Yah, but it's not possible. When the same oversight happens to me, I don't take it personally.

4. I try to have compassion

My goal is to love someone even when they don't want to be loved or when they are acting like they don't love me. I choose compassion over anger and love over resentment.

5. I am content

I'm happy with my life. I love my family, friends and the lifestyle I've created for myself. I am content with the person I have worked hard to become. This contentment helps me to be happy whether I get invited or don't get invited. If someone doesn't like me, it doesn't define me. I know who I am.

Refusing to get my feelings hurt has been a game changer. I'm much happier. I live with more peace. I recognize when I feel sad, lonely or angry. I know when I need to apologize to others and receive others forgiveness.

Now, just because I don't get my feelings hurt, doesn't mean I don't want an invitation to the next party!