Earlier this month, thousands of high school seniors walked across the stage in caps and gowns while the band played Pomp and Circumstance to get their high school diplomas. If your child graduated high school this year, you know how bittersweet this achievement is. It feels like yesterday that you dropped them off at kindergarten; now, they’re heading out of your house and off to college.
The advice you gave as they went to kindergarten was simple: play nicely, wash your hands, and have fun, followed by a kiss and a hug and “see you after school.” Now that they’re heading off to college, what advice should you give them? What wise words does your graduate need to hear to inspire them to make the most of their first year in college? Here are some wise words that every high school graduate needs to hear before heading off to college.
Ensure that you’re ready for college.
Attending college can be a daunting and big adjustment for some kids. Taking a year off between high school and college is okay if you’re unsure of the path you want to take. You can mature significantly, put away some savings, and learn a lot about yourself during a gap year. Who knows, you may realize that college isn’t for you during your gap year.
Don’t forget to call your mom.
Just because you’re not living in your parent’s house anymore doesn’t mean they won’t worry about you. In fact, they may worry more because they don’t see you as often and don’t know what you’re up to. Moms especially tend to worry when they don’t hear from you. It would be best to do your mom a favor and text or call them every couple of days so they won’t worry. You could include your dad in your text thread so he won’t feel left out.
Go to class.
When you get to college, you may feel like you have no care in the world. However, that’s not the case. Your parents aren’t there to be your reminder anymore, so now, it’s all on you. Even when it’s a beautiful day outside, and you’d rather be anywhere else, go to class. College is an expensive investment, and you wouldn’t want your parent’s money or financial aid to go to waste.
Take morning classes.
Speaking of classes, it may be best to take morning classes if you can help it. If you start your day at 8 or 9 a.m., you’ll likely be finished by noon. Meanwhile, all of your friend’s days are just beginning. While they’re in class, you can study and have time to socialize in the evening. The other side of taking morning classes is that they can transform you into a morning person.
Ask for help.
Don’t be scared to ask for help if you need it. If you don’t understand an assignment, ask your professor for clarification. When stressed about your academics, go to the student center and find a tutor. Consider talking to a counselor if you feel like you’re struggling to adjust. Discuss your concerns with campus security or your RA if you don’t feel safe. If you feel like you’re battling with your faith, talk to campus ministry. Numerous people on and off-campus want to help you. All you have to do is ask. Don’t forget about your parents; they love you and are always willing to help you if you need it.
Eat healthily.
College and pizza may go hand in hand, but your body needs more than pizza to function correctly. Don’t be afraid to add some greens to your diet and eat a salad now and then. Try your best to eat some healthy snacks and not overindulge in unhealthy foods. If you’re lucky enough to have a mini-fridge in your room, pack it with tuna packets and small servings of cut-up fruit and vegetables. Don’t forget to drink lots of water and stay hydrated.
Be kind-hearted.
There’s a quote from an unknown author that goes, “In a world where you can be anything, be kind.” Show kindness and be friendly to everyone, from the cafeteria staff to the faculty and your fellow students. If you’re shy, showing a smile will work until you get the nerve to say hi. Also, don’t forget to be kind to yourself. Recognize that you’re in a new experience and won’t know everything, and that’s okay. All you can do is try your best and learn along the way.
Be true to yourself.
Experimenting and exploration are great, but you should never lose track of who you are and your values. Don’t fall prey to bad influences or try to be something you’re not to please other people. Only you truly know yourself and your limits. If you feel that someone is trying to push you outside of who you are, it may be best not to hang out with them anymore.
Remember your passions.
You’re studying for a career that will carry you into many years of your life. If you feel your major doesn’t make you happy or bring you joy, consider changing your major. It’s better to realize that you’re not on the right path earlier in your college career than later.
Graduating from high school is a monumental achievement. It’s one of the first big ceremonies you’ll experience after kindergarten. Your high school graduation may mark the end of your primary education, but it’s only the beginning of your post-secondary education. Going to college and being away from your parents can seem exciting, but once things sink in, you’ll realize that your parents only want the best for you. These tidbits remind you that your parents love you and want you to succeed in your education.
On the other hand, if you choose not to go to college after high school or take a gap year, that’s okay too. At the end of the day, you have to do what’s best for you. For now, take the time to celebrate your achievement and enjoy your new beginnings.
