If you're a mother, you know the pain and hurt of mom shaming. Moms are scrutinized and judged whether their kids are breastfed or formula-fed, whether they set strict rules or relaxed rules and whether they stay at home during the day or work.

Anna Strode, fitness blogger and stay-at-home mom, broke down one day when she received a harsh message on one of her social media pages:

"I wish I got to stay at home all day and exercise with my child, instead I have to go to work and do WORK," the online commenter posted on Strode's page.

"It cut me pretty deep and while I do my best to remain positive - this hurt," she admitted.

Strode responded to this nasty comment in a public Instagram post.

Her response went viral and gave the world insight into the life of a stay-at-home mom

Last week someone made a comment on my page and you know what, it upset me. It cut me pretty deep and while I do my best to remain positive - this hurt. It basically said 'I wish I got to stay at home all day and exercise with my child, instead I have to go to work and do WORK...' Work?! You think I don't WORK?! You think I sit at home all day and twiddle my thumbs? You think 2 x 22 month old toddlers just let me kick my feet up all day after I've done my morning workout? You think I'm beaming with energy as I grow a new baby and frantically do my best to keep up with twin boys that run rings around me?! Just to break it down... I exercise for 20-30 minutes a day. Sometimes stopping 20 times throughout to fetch toys, bring food, stop hair pulling, break up fights over toys and some days, stopping 2 minutes in because it just ain't happening that day! Other days we're so busy or the boys are so CLINGY / CRANKY (eg: this photo sums it up) the best workout I can get in is some squats, push ups and tricep dips while they eat or while we practice new words, counting to 10 or all the body parts we've learnt. I certainly DON'T spend all day exercising. My days are spent changing shitty nappies, dealing with tantrums, playing cars and trucks, making food that gets thrown on the floor before it's even tasted, walking the streets trying to get tired, grumpy children to nap, attempting to teach two little humans to SHARE instead of bite, pull hair, scratch or push each other, pushing swings, climbing up and down bloody forts that shouldn't even be in kids playgrounds because they are so damn unsafe, singing the alphabet, going for adventures to keep the bubs happy, vacuuming 3 times a day because of all that food that I worked so hard to cook wasn't even considered eating, oh and did I mention the constant battle of playing referee ALL day between two little cheeky monkeys that guess what DON'T 'just play happily and entertain each other all day!' For the record, TWINS don't do that!!! Maybe when they're older, yes! I hope so anyway ~ but for now, no - I literally for most of the part can't take my eyes off them! Cont. in comments ??

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"Just to break it down... I exercise for 20-30 minutes a day," Strode shared on Instagram. "Sometimes stopping 20 times throughout to fetch toys, bring food, stop hair pulling, break up fights over toys and some days, stopping 2 minutes in because it just ain't happening that day!"

As a mother of two with another on the way, Strode said she spends her days changing messy diapers, handling tantrums, vacuuming three times a day and playing referee between her two fighting boys.

"I literally for most of the part can't take my eyes off them!" she said.

This isn't the first time someone shamed Strode on social media

Most comments on her pages are positive, but occasionally she receives shaming messages from strangers, Strode told The Huffington Post.

"Some people say that me working out means I'm not focusing on my children despite the fact my whole workout revolves around and includes them and is actually their favorite part of the day," she said.

She certainly does include her kids: from squatting with a child on her shoulders to chasing her twin boys as they ride their tricycles. They're even her little cheer squad when she finishes a successful workout.

Despite the nasty comments, Strode tries to spread positive vibes

In addition to blogging her daily exercise routines, Strode sends positive messages to all the mothers out there, working and stay-at-home alike.

"If you've had a rough day today, try laying in bed tonight and asking yourself to have strength to face tomorrow with ENERGY and POSITIVITY," she said. "It's what I do every night and it's amazing what a bit of 'self talk' and 'believing in ourselves' can do for us mamas. You got this MAMA."

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