A recent bride wrote into an advice column called, "Dear Jane" where she is seeking advice on how to mend her friendship with her maid of honor after she ruined her wedding with a drunken speech about the bride's sex life. The bride was mortified when her maid of honor spoke about her old dates and sexual adventures in front of her husband and family. Because of this, the husband wants her to stop being friends with her, even though they have been friends since they were kids.
The bride explained the situation by saying, "I've known my maid of honor since we were kids and even though we're total opposites, we've also been really close. So when it came to choosing a maid of honor, she was my first choice despite my husband voicing some concern over her drunken antics." She went on to say: "But I trusted her implicitly and made clear to her that when it came to the wedding and the speech, it was important to me that everything be kept as tame as possible so as to avoid any embarrassment in front of my family and my new in-laws. She promised that she'd keep things 'PG' ahead of the day and reassured me that she was going to 'lean into the emotion rather than the humor' for her speech." But, when the big day rolled around, the maid of honor got too drunk before the ceremony, so bad that the other bridesmaids had to take care of her. Whether is was due to nerves or irresponsibility, it wasn't cool. Things took a turn for the worse when it came time for the maid of honor speech. "She then proceeded to recap all of my most mortifying sexual encounters, telling my family, friends, and in-laws about some of my most awkward dating moments, including the time I lost my virginity, and a date that ended in disaster when I threw up after eating some bad shrimp." She continued, "I was close to tears by the time my husband stood up and prized the microphone out of her hands. I asked one of my friends to take care of her for the rest of the evening and did my best to steer clear of her until after the weekend had wrapped up. Since the wedding, we've had a chance to chat and while I don't think I'm anywhere near to forgiving her, I do know that her speech didn't come from a place of malice and that, in her drunken state, she really did think she was being funny. I believe that one day I will be able to move past this and get our friendship back on track."
Her husband now has strong resentment for the maid of honor and encouraged the bride to end their friendship. The bride is now seeking advice on how to go about the situation. "I feel really torn here I know exactly why he feels the way that he does, but I don't want to end a 20-year friendship over one incident, no matter how hurtful it was. Is there any way I can repair the relationship between them?" What would you do?
