While it's fine to blissfully ignore how Mr. Wonderful chews with his mouth open, not noticing some issues will create huge problems later down the road. We've already covered five mistakes women make in dating, but unfortunately, there are five more. Not noticing these five things will spell trouble the longer you date:
1. Falling on deaf ears
When someone tells you who they are, you better believe them. Whether he's being brutally honest or lets his flaws inadvertently slip, pay attention if a guy calls himself selfish, a bad boy, a player, commitment-phobic or mentions that he's quick to anger.
Not listening to what he tells you means you're missing who he really is, and what he does and doesn't want out of this relationship. Your instinct may be to defend him against was sounds like self-deprecation. You'll he insist he's not that way, or at least, he's not that way anymore. Don't make this mistake - if a man tells you who he is and what he expects, listen.
2. Working to win him
Working to win a guy over is never a good sign. If he's uninterested in you, you're making a mistake by trying to entice him to notice you. Don't start changing parts of your life or body just to win a date with him. It's never a good idea to chase someone who only took you out because you "happen" to both love the same baseball team.
3. Editing yourself
While pretending to love his same hobbies for a date is bad, this mistake is even worse. While dating, if your guy starts actively trying to change who you are, beware.
In a healthy relationship, your mister might offer the chance for both of you to try something new, but it will never be stated as a demand or a threat. Phrases like "You'd be prettier if" or "I'd love you more if" mean he's trying to fundamentally change who you are. These "suggestions" could also fall into the category of emotional abuse. Don't make the mistake of thinking that his demand you go to the gym more means he cares. If he truly loved you, suggestions to improve yourself would be genuine, said with delicacy and would still be sensitive to your needs.
4. Being immature and insecure
If your man has a problem with you being taller, stronger or more athletic than him, you've got a problem that doesn't get better with time. Having a more prestigious or better paying job, a better or higher education, or being more intelligent, informed and generally right most of the time will intimidate insecure men.
Subtly, he'll try to get you to step down from your higher position to let him lead. But it gets worse. Soon, criticizing you for "challenging" or "fighting" him when you disagree, or accusing you of using your financial or career position to show off becomes common. Constant arguments are now the norm and nothing you do will be right, because "you're better" than him. Don't make the mistake of dating a man who is this insecure.
5. Failing the F&F test
If your friends and family are not impressed with your beau, you've got a problem. Listen if the people you love and trust have their doubts, don't think you make a good match or don't see the relationship lasting long. You may be blind to a red flag that they're clearly seeing.
When it comes to dating, don't wait until you're in too deep. Keep a sharp eye out for these issues. You may have missed the signals or ignored the signs, but now you can look back and see how things could potentially go wrong. Then you'll know what to look out for with your new mister and be confident that this new relationship will last.
