Tension can rise to a fever pitch when you think your boyfriend has the hots for a new girl. But don't be so quick to overlook a very real possibility. He may still have feelings for the old one!
When old flames fail to die down, it's time to take a good hard look at your man and see the truth behind his suspicious behavior.
Here are 5 more signs your guy hasn't completely axed his ex:
1. He's still REALLY good friends with her
Staying friends with an ex is a delicate endeavor.
This tightrope can be fraught with jealousy, insensitivity, and lack of foresight. If he's open and honest about how much time he spends with her, and exactly how close this quality time is, you might be okay; especially if she's moved on, too. But if he's secretive, vague or annoyed at any probing into their "friendship," rethink your relationship. He may not be cheating, but he is hiding something.
2. He controls your relationship with her
If your guy decided to stay friends with his ex and tries to force you two to be friends, or works hard to keep you two away from each other, look out. He's trying to control the situation because he's afraid he won't be able to control himself.
Letting things evolve naturally would be too risky, so he needs to keep you two far apart or close by all the time so you don't ask questions about the both of them. It's about keeping you secluded or overexposed to ward off suspicion.
3. You're his rebound
Be diligent in getting the dish on your guy's relevant dating history; especially his most recent breakup. Be cautious of how things began and ended with them.
If he came running to you after she ran out on him, there's a good chance he'd run back if she gave him the chance. Don't be the placeholder for who he really wants: the one that got away.
4. He calls you her name
Watch out for this red flag! Once is a Freudian slip. Twice is a faux paw. Three times and it's the green light to get out of there.
5. He HATES her new boyfriend
No one expects to fall in love with their ex's new beau, but if your boyfriend absolutely despises his ex's new man there may be some unresolved feelings there- particularly if your guy has no good reason to dislike her new man.
If you see no issues with his ex's new choice but he seems ready for a fight at a moment's notice, you may have a brewing boxing match on your hands; and they won't be fighting over you.
Sometimes it can be hard to peel apart the layers of a good "friendship" to find the hidden feelings in these past romances. There's a fine line between insecure jealousy and sharp observation of real unusual behavior. Maybe you're not just seeing things?
Stay vigilant in your relationship, and confront your issues with composure and respect. You might find things are not as bad as they seem. But at the very worst, you'll at least know to always trust your instincts.
