Cheating destroys relationships. This betrayal can be one of the most devastating events that can occur in life. It violates everything you’ve built with your partner. Many of us who have been victims of cheating did not see it coming. Blinded by the deception, most people don’t know how they got there and don’t know how to get out of it. There are many reasons a woman may cheat. Some of these have nothing to do with the relationship and everything to do with insecurities you aren’t able to see. Here are six types of women who cheat.
The wandering woman.
The wandering cheater may have inappropriate thoughts, visualize a person other than their partner, fantasize about other people when they’re sleeping with their partner, and visit certain places knowing that a person they are sexually attracted to will be there. They may also seek eye contact with someone they are sexually attracted to, watch pornography, and look at different social media profiles of people that you have a sexual interest in, among other things. This type of cheater is hard to detect because everything is subtle. While this form of infidelity may seem harmless initially, it will silently sabotage your relationship.
The emotionally checked out woman.
When a woman is emotionally checked out from her relationship, she may cheat. This may show up as physical cheating, but often, it shows up as emotional cheating. Emotional or mental cheating is to look with an intentional and conscious desire to gratify lust; to picture situations in mind; to think adultery in mind with a person to the point that if the opportunity were presented, you would commit the physical act. What’s so sabotaging about this form of adultery is the fact that people don’t take it as seriously because no physical activity has taken place. Pay attention to your girl’s attitude to behavior. Does she seem withdrawn or drained? While it may not be cheating, it could point to something deeper that should be addressed.
The neglected woman.
Does your girl feel underappreciated, neglected, or ignored? Sometimes, women cheat because they feel like they are more like a housekeeper, nanny, or financial provider than a girlfriend or wife. They will seek an external situation that validates them for who they are. They don’t have to think about their responsibilities or feel like they aren’t valued.
The neglected woman may also crave intimacy. Women generally feel connected and valued by their significant other through emotional intimacy than sexual activity. When they miss that type of connection from their primary partner, they may turn to another man for it.
The overwhelmed woman.
An overwhelmed woman may cheat despite loving their spouse, home, work, and life. These women often describe feeling under-supported and overwhelmed by having to be all things to all people. They will turn to other people to feel a sense of life-fulfillment. This woman may also feel super lonely inside. Women can experience loneliness in a relationship for any number of reasons. Maybe their partner is working long hours or travel for business regularly. Their partner may also be emotionally unavailable. Again, seeking another connecting can temporarily fill that void.
The unsatisfied woman.
Sometimes, the reason a woman will cheat is simply that they aren’t satisfied sexually at home. There is a societal misconception that only men enjoy sex, and women aren’t looking to be pleased. Many women enjoy sex, and if they aren’t having quality sex at home, or it’s not enjoyable to them, they may see it elsewhere.
The abused woman.
Sometimes, women cheat who are responding to early-life trauma and abuse. These women who may have experienced profound early-life or adult trauma, particularly sexual trauma, will re-enact that trauma to try and master or control it. If your girlfriend has been through this sort of trauma or abuse, therapy can help them begin dealing with the trauma in the way they hadn’t before. If it isn’t dealt with, it can show up in your relationship in other ways.
Cheating is one of the easiest ways to damage a relationship. Sometimes the damage is so heavy; the relationship can’t be fixed. As with male cheaters, women who cheat typically do not realize at the moment how profoundly infidelity affects their partner and their relationship. Often, this is because cheating may only be emotional. The reason cheating is so hard to work through is that it compromises the trust and faith you had in your partner. You can’t unsee it. Cheating can collapse even the strongest bonds and destroy your relationship from the inside out. Though you may not think these offenses are that serious now, if you continually participate in these forms of cheating, they can have some deadly consequences.
