I recently called to check on my father who wasn't feeling well. After talking for a few minutes, I asked about his wife (not my mother). They've enjoyed a wonderful relationship for 45 years of marriage. He said, "She is doing well, sitting here holding my hand."
I must admit, I thought of that as a Hallmark moment - a seasoned couple sitting in their cabin on a mountain in Arkansas still in love and holding hands.
The human touch has amazingly powerful benefits to both parties - physically, emotionally, physiologically, and even spiritually. Studies have revealed innumerable benefits. Unfortunately, some men have allowed their hands to withdraw from reaching for their wives. Here are seven meaningful touches every husband should use to reach for his wife.
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Reach for your wife first thing in the morning. It may be a gentle pat as you're getting out of bed or a hug when you first see each other but reach for her before you get busy with the day.
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Throughout the day, a text or quick phone call is a great touch of affection that will go a long way in letting her know she is on your mind. A simple, "I love you." or, "Just thinking about you and looking forward to the evening."
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Write a note the old-fashioned way. We're so tech-savvy these days that sometimes an old-fashioned approach is more meaningful.
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Whether your wife loves flowers, chocolate or shoes, sending these on "regular" days rather than typical celebration days will be a huge touch.
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Save some energy so you can give your wife special attention when you return home. Embrace her warmly and greet her when you first enter the home.
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Hold her hand at random times - driving, walking or just sitting at home.
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Give her a back rub.
Bonus Touch
I want to add one more to the list that is a real standout, and it will take your relationship to another dimension.
Pray with and about her. Pray for her dreams while praying in agreement with her. This may take you out of your comfort zone, but I promise you this will be a game changer in your spiritual walk and leadership with your wife and family.
Reach out and touch your wife. The benefits are immeasurable.