The truth is there is no such thing as perfect, but having a boyfriend who is also a best friend can feel like you’ve hit the jackpot. We often desire to be truly loved and accepted. Being friends with the person we love creates that perfect space. Here are seven signs your boyfriend is also your best friend.
He can talk to you about anything.
When your boyfriend is your best friend, he can be vulnerable with you. He is receptive to feedback, even when that feedback isn’t what he wants to hear. When someone is open-minded and free-thinking in their relationship, they can express their thoughts, feelings, dreams, and desires with their partner. This transparency level allows your boyfriend to trust you and connect with you on a deeper level. The perfect relationship doesn’t exist, but if you are someone who can talk about your boyfriend’s problem, you are blessed to have them in your life.
He makes you laugh.
They say that laughter is the best medicine. Not every boyfriend has to be a special comedian, but it helps when he has a good sense of humor. When your boyfriend is also your best friend, he is playful and jokes around with you. He might do silly things only with you. You two might even have endearing names for each other too. You guys know how to keep the relationship light and fun.
He actively listens to you.
Stable, healthy communication is essential in any relationship and with whom you can communicate better than your best friend. When we talk and share our feelings, we feel closer to others and get our needs met. However, talking is only half of the equation. The other half is listening. Without the capacity for good listening, communication will break down. When your boyfriend is your best friend, they actively look to you and are engaged when you express a need. When there is something you need to communicate with them, they will stop whatever they are doing to give you their full attention. Even if there is a point, they want to make when they are talking to you, they make it a point not to interrupt you so that you feel truly heard. Thy actively listens because they genuinely care about you.
He feels like he can be candid with you.
A boyfriend who is also your best friend feels like they can tell you the truth. They trust you with everything, and they know that deception can be extremely destructive. It confuses the other person, betrays their vulnerability, and can mess up their sense of reality. Even in painful situations such as infidelity, the blatant deception involved is often equally, if not more hurtful than the unfaithful act itself. When your boyfriend is your best friend, there is rarely any discrepancies between words and actions. This goes for verbal and nonverbal communication. Being open and honest in our marriage means we know ourselves and our intentions.
He empathizes with you.
A boyfriend who is your best friend values you on an intellectual, emotional, and intuitive level. A good boyfriend can understand and empathize with the person they love. When two people in a relationship truly understand each other, they become aware of the commonalities that exist between them and also recognize and appreciate the differences. Who doesn’t value your unique qualities more than your best friend? If your boyfriend is empathetic, they communicate with feelings and with respect for your wants, values, and needs. They feel understood and validated when they talk with you, and they want you to also feel it.
He is the first person to call you with news.
Your boyfriend is the first person you text or call when something goes down, good or bad. It’s a no brainer to you. No matter what happens, your boyfriend immediately wants to fill you in. From big things like landing his dream job – to the small ones – like getting a free bagel with his coffee – he always wants you to know what’s happening in your world.
He works at love.
A good boyfriend knows that love takes work, and because you two are best friends, he will put all the work that he needs to because he cares for you more than most people. It takes effort to make the time and space in our lives to tend to our relationships. We are tired. We are busy. Sometimes, it just doesn’t seem to be enough time or energy left. Yet, a boyfriend who is also your best friend will make that time for you. Regardless of what is going on in your life, they want to be around you because you are one of their favorite people. They know that love is a verb, not just a feeling, so it requires giving not just receiving. They are committed to making the relationship work, even when the chips are down.
The most important thing about any relationship is that love is the common denominator. Past issues or concerns are not getting in the way and hurting the current relationship. When you’re best friends with the person you love, these things couldn’t be truer.
