Men can lose sexual interest in their partners for a lot of reasons, not just because they have found another woman. The reasons range from the simple to complex, but if you find the cause of his disinterest, you can help get that spark back.
Intimacy is a crucial part of any happy marriage, so the fact that it's disappeared (or isn't as common as it used to be) isn't a good sign. Use this list and figure out the cause (and the solution):
1. Your bedroom isn't sexy
How your bed and bedroom look and feel are extremely important factors that can impact your relationship.
How your room is decorated isn't exactly the most important thing, but how the bedroom smells and how clean it is are both extremely important elements when it comes to intimacy. The bedroom should be the most comfortable, clean and cozy place in your home.
2. Decreased sexual desire
According to WebMD, there are several factors that can modify a man's sexual desire. One of the most impactful factors is age: the older you are, the lower your sexual interest. In addition, psychological factors such as stress, anxiety and depression can make a man feel like skipping out on any sort of intimacy with his partner.
WebMD also points out some medical factors that should be considered when figuring out the cause for a low sex drive: Diabetes, obesity, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, medications taken for AIDS (and for hair loss) along other medicines can negatively impact sex drive.
Abnormal levels of reproduction-related male hormones (like testosterone) may also be affecting him.
3. He works too much
This is a common cause many couples have to work around. Most jobs today can be done with the help of the internet and a computer, meaning you can take work home ... keeping you busy and stressed out all the time.
For the sake of your happiness, your family and your wife, create rules about work to help you balance it with your home life.
4. He isn't comfortable with his body
Women aren't the only ones who have complex feelings when it comes to their figure and appearance. Men also suffer from low self-esteem, especially if their bodies look different from how they looked and felt a few years ago.
It's important for couples to take care of each other, exercise together and establish a healthy way of eating. As his wife, let him know you love every part of him just the way he is.
5. Your feelings have changed
If changed feelings are the reason why your husband no longer wants to be intimate with you, talk about it.
The fact that your chemistry has faded doesn't mean all hope is lost. That spark can be felt again by making some changes that usually have to do with your routine. Break up his day with romantic surprises. Flirt with your husband. Plan a secret weekend getaway, with just the two of you. Remind him why you started dating in the first place.
6. Depression
Depression can influence your man's sexual desire. Symptoms of depression can sometimes be mistaken for something else, so pay close attention. If you suspect that your spouse is experiencing symptoms of depression, seek medical help.
7. Lack of connection
Some refer to this factor as lack of touch or chemistry, but this is more than that. When was the last time you and your husband really connected? Or had a real conversation that didn't involve the kids or unpaid bills? Spend some time alone together talking about yourselves and your relationship to restart that lost connection.
8. The use of pornography
Pornography twists and warps what sex should be between a couple. The use of pornography is extremely destructive to any relationship, and is a topic that can't be ignored.
9. Tiredness
If tiredness is being caused by too much work or a medical condition, find a way to get your energy back. It's crucial that you both find a way to make room for intimacy in your lives for the sake of your marriage.
This article was adapted and translated from the original, "9 razones por las que los hombres DEJAN de tener INTERÉS en tener INTIMIDAD con sus esposas." It was originally published on familias.com.
