A bride’s unique and enunciated collection of “wedding rules” before her upcoming wedding allegedly offended some people, including her grandmother, who told the bride she was agitated by the long list of rules that included specific guidance about guests’ behavior, attire, and more.

After issuing her rules, the bride sought advice, help, and consolation online. In a Reddit post, the bride detailed how she and her husband had already eloped, and the ceremony was for the family who didn’t get to come to the wedding. In the instructions, the bride said the wedding would be held at a church, and semiformal attire was recommended.

She listed the wedding colors and said guests didn’t have to wear those colors. She added, “That is the color scheme, and I wanted to include it in case anyone wanted to match, but I’ve already told people that if they wanted to wear a bright red dress or lime green tux, I really don’t care.” In her rules, she also detailed that a children’s area will be provided, and families can have their children in it anytime during the day.

She also bluntly stated that plus-ones and additional guests were not allowed. She added that she made a copy of her rules and initially shared them with her grandmother, but her grandmother became distraught, saying that it’s too many rules. However, when she told her that most of the rules were about the food, and at that point, her grandmother told her she was being an [expletive] about the rules.

In her instructions, the bride also wrote that friends and family should remember that the reception would be outside, so guests should bring or wear flats/sneakers to be comfortable. She also instructed guests not to wear white attire, but accessories and shoes were allowed. If guests were seen wearing white, they would be asked to change or leave. She added, “If a refusal is made, the guest will be escorted from the event.”

The bride’s rules also stated that children should be on their best behavior and not interrupt the ceremony or first dance, and if they were being disruptive, guests were asked to take them outside. She also said no pregnancy announcements or proposals at the wedding. Any attempts would result in guests being invited the leave the wedding.

The wedding rules Reddit post has obtained 2,600 reactions and 1,200 comments, with numerous people calling out the bride for her rudeness. One person commented that they would stay home if they received this invitation. Another commenter said the rules were offputting, noting that adults shouldn’t be told what shoes or colors to wear.

Jacqueline Whitmore, a Floridian etiquette expert, said etiquette is about your guests’ comfort, not yours. She added if a bride or host has this many rules, they should perhaps rethink the situation so they won’t upset anyone. Some may think it’s the bride’s day so she can make the rules for her day. However, these rules might have taken things a little too far, making guests feel alienated.