Choosing the person that you will spend the rest of your life with is a huge decision, and not one anybody should take lightly. "How will I know the person I am dating is the person I should marry?" is a common question and concern, "How will I know they are the one?" The following are just a few of the ways to help you make your decision.
You can talk to each other
This may sound like an obvious indicator, but some couples get so caught up in the physical aspect of a new relationship that they forget that at some point, there are going to have to be some important conversations that take place. I recommend even a small road-trip (minimum of four hours in the car) where you can talk to each other and make sure that things mesh on a more conversational level.
Talk about the deal breakers
This goes for both of you. Each of you will have things that aren't negotiable when it comes to a long-term relationship. For some people, this may include kids, pets, travel, family holidays, traditions etc. This list goes on and on and everyone will have their own list to deal with. Sometimes it is tempting to bend on some of your non-negotiable items because of the blinders that people in love sometimes wear. However, it's important to remember that once the "honeymoon" is over, you will want to have had these discussions. After you are married, contention could come up that could make things go south quickly.
Be physically attracted to each other
This nearly goes without saying in this day and age, but you will inevitably see each other in various circumstances. Things aren't always rainbows and butterflies. You'll both have situations that will be trying on your relationship. When children come along, regardless of what Hollywood shows, birth isn't particularly glamorous. The point is, you'll want to make sure that you find the person attractive regardless of what the situation may be.
Meet the family
When you marry the girl/guy, you marry the family. While any "in-law" situation may be something you can overcome, having a strong relationship with your in-laws can be a huge blessing and a source of strength for you both when the going gets a little rough. Additionally, if your relationship with your in-laws starts off a little rough, remember that your relationship is something worth fighting for. Do what you can to help your parents see the best in your significant other.
Double check that your strengths and weaknesses complement each other
. If you are both heavy spenders without much regard for budgeting, you may want to weigh your options. If you're both hot-tempered or are lacking in the compassion department, discuss what you can do to patiently discipline your future children. None of these things can't be overcome, but remember to diligently focus on your own weaknesses so they can become your strengths together.
This is arguably the most important decision you'll ever make, so taking the time to make the right decision is paramount. Never feel pressured to be with someone that you don't feel strongly about. Pressure from friends and family, while it's great to have their support, shouldn't make the decision for you.
