To write this article, I talked for a long time with my husband. First, I asked him to make a list of things that I do that makes him feel appreciated. Then I asked him to list the things that I could do better so that he could feel even more appreciated. I also asked a couple of his friends what their wives could do to make them feel more appreciated. We do have a list about "how to appreciate your wife" in the end.
Here is a list of some things that you could do or do better to let your husband know how you truly feel and how he can progress as a man, father and husband.
Communicate effectively
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Say "Please" when you ask him to do something for you.
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Use kind, gentle words when speaking with him.
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Praise him in the little things that he does for you every day.
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Encourage him gently, without being pushy, while striving to make the journey together.
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Be calm in your heart and avoid acting harshly with him.
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Do not escalate fights. Be peaceful and don't cause drama over little things.
Be supportive
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Recognize his effort at work and what he does for the family.
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Believe in his potential, in what he can do and in what he needs.
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Love him unconditionally. This includes looking past his imperfections.
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Remind him about small imperfections, but focus on his good qualities.
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Inspire him by your firm determination to act in life and be the best person you can.
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Be positive; have hope and fight together for a better future for your family.
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Be his understanding companion.
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Leave notes telling him that you appreciate his acts and appreciate him in general.
Show unconditional love
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Forgive easily. Do not hold a grudge or resentment.
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Look into his eyes with love.
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Help and ask for his help to keep the house clean and organized; make sure that it gives off the vibe of "welcome home!"
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Take care of yourself and your appearance.
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Be positive and have a good sense of humor.
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Make an extra effort to always have a smile on your face, especially when he comes home or does something for you.
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Want to have an adventure together. It shows that you like being in his company.
Show him respect
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Be punctual.
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Do not complain about your life or his work; the hard work that he does for you.
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Ask for his help for difficult things.
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Respect his ideas and opinions in all parts of your family.
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Be honest but subtle.
We all need to be better at some things. In the end, we want our husbands to appreciate us, and our effort will inspire him to do the same, so we can be better at what we do.
Also see the article, "How to appreciate your wife." So you can have some ideas for your husband!
Translated and adapted by Taylor Richardson from the original article, "Como apreciar seu marido" by Chris Ayres.