There is nothing worse than feeling alone when you're with the person you love. Getting back passion you once felt for one another seems impossible when your daily routine, children and responsibilities have taken over your relationship. But don't lose hope yet; adding these four things to your bedtime routine could save your marriage:
What happened to us?
Several studies have shown that daily routines take over passion that once kept your marriage alive. As time goes by, things change and affection that was once there before bed is replaced by a laptop or phone.
The days turn into weeks and weeks into months. Your exchange of sweet nothings are replaced by "Don't forget to pick up Jake from school." The kisses are scarce and deep conversations are replaced by what you're going to eat for dinner. Before you know it, you and your spouse are living totally separate lives, and the only thing that keeps you together is the bed you share.
It's never too late to change. Do these four things before bed and you'll gain back the connection between you, and this time, it'll be there to stay.
1. Go to bed at the same time
Sometimes when a solution is so simple, people think it won't change anything, but an easy change like this can make a big difference in your relationship.
If you watch TV until several hours after your spouse has gone to bed, there's no chance of connecting emotionally or physically. Setting a bedtime routine together is the first step to rekindling the spark in your marriage.
2. Turn off your electronics and have a deep conversation
Use the first few minutes after going to bed to talk about your day in depth. Tell your husband about your fears, daily tasks and things you've been thinking about. Give him the chance to do the same and sincerely listen to him. With distractions like electronics set aside, take this time to focus on each other.
3. Prepare for a romantic night during the day
Text your husband during the day or leave a hidden love note for him. Let him know you're looking forward to seeing him. A few cute messages can help get the both of you excited for a romantic night, and you'll drive your husband crazy over you when he knows you're crazy for him.
4. Cuddle and kiss before falling asleep
Kissing is an important part of a loving relationship. Make those sweet kisses part of your nightly routine. Find new ways to lovingly caress your spouse and use gestures you probably haven't used in a while such as holding hands. Cuddle before falling asleep, and maybe continue to hold each other close and sneak in a few kisses even after the lights have been turned off.
These four simple steps can rekindle the deep connection you felt as newlyweds. Don't forget the simple gestures; these are the ones that can mean the most to you and your spouse.
This article is adapted and translated from the original, "Salva tu matrimonio haciendo estas 4 cosas antes de dormir (la diversión volverá a su lugar)." It was originally published on familias.com.
