An unknown woman on Reddit has started a debate about bodily autonomy after her husband allegedly told her he doesn’t want her to become an underwear model. The woman, who says she’s 42 years old, asked other Reddit users if she’s wrong for telling her husband he doesn’t get to decide what she does with her body.

With her throwaway account, meaning she made the account to ask her question, she posted her domestic disagreement in the “AITAH” subreddit, where app users vote on who’s to blame in a civil argument. OrdinaryLawyer2473 shared that she was approached by two friends who own a small gym wear company for a potential underwear modeling job. In her post, she wrote that they would have models of all ages. When she told her husband, she didn’t expect him to get so upset.

She said he was furious and told her she couldn’t do the modeling gig. OrdinaryLawyer2473 wrote that she was shocked by her husband’s response, who is allegedly 38 years old and the father of her four-year-old son. When other users asked why he doesn’t want her to accept the job, OrdinaryLawyer 2473 claims her husband said he doesn’t want her body out there for everyone to see, adding that she’s unsure of what he means by that statement.

In her Reddit post, she wrote that she always wears bikinis on the beach, so what’s the difference? OrdinaryLawyer2473 asked Redditors if she was wrong for telling her husband he had no right to tell her what to do with her body. The post has generated over 15,000 upvotes and 9,300 comments. Users were divided on the problem, with some siding with her husband or OrdinaryLawyer2473.

Most commenters who sided with OrdinaryLawyer2473 cited bodily autonomy to defend her desire not to let off the issue and question her husband’s perspective. One user wrote that her husband was being possessive, adding that he can feel how he feels, but he doesn’t get special rights to tell her what she can do with her body. Most Reddit commenters who agreed with OrdinaryLawyer2473’s husband said marriages are a two-way street.

Other Reddit users saw both parties’ perspectives. The Reddit post’s top commenter, who received 3,800 upvotes from the AITAH community, wrote that her husband could be uncomfortable with it and ask her not to, but she’s not obligated to listen to him. However, when couples ignore each other’s wishes out of spite, it usually hurts the relationship. The top comment continued, “Like everything else. You’re free to do it. But you’re not free from the consequences of doing it.”

Another user questioned if the modeling gig involves a sporty, sexy, or casual theme, implying that this could make a big difference. They also suggested showing the husband a previous catalog from the company so he can see what she’ll be doing. They finished the comment by saying it’s not okay for your husband to tell you what to do, but swimwear and underwear aren’t synonymous.

It’s never okay for your spouse to dictate what you can and can’t do. However, because marriage is a partnership, you should consider their feelings, especially when showing your body.