You can discover infidelity before it even happens. All you need is five minutes and this one technique.
The role of fidelity
Fidelity is the fundamental pillar of a marriage for a million reasons. Fidelity is a form of respect, it's the result of a harmonious relationship and reflects trust in a relationship. In addition to love, fidelity is the glue that holds the couple and family together.
On the contrary, infidelity destroys that commitment. It's an unfortunate epidemic that's ruining countless relationships. Luckily, researchers at Brigham Young University and the University of Florida have conducted numerous studies that came to the same conclusion: All you need is five minutes to tell if someone is unfaithful.
How to detect a cheater
The studies interviewed people who were faithful and unfaithful. The participants were observed by another group who did not know them and who had no information about their relationships.
The people who observed the couples for five minutes were able to determine if one person or both people were unfaithful almost every time.
Listen to your intuition
When I was a teenager my grandmother always told me that the first impression was the most important part of meeting someone. "The first five minutes is when you meet someone - whatever those five minutes make you feel about that guy, are the ones that matter." I've always remembered her advice, and now realize how right she was.
According to science, our survival instinct helps us analyze and see dishonesty and and other red flags. If something tells you in those first five minutes of meeting someone that they aren't for you, listen.
Should you be wary of these snap judgments?
Dr. Gary Lawandosky, a romantic relationships specialist, advocates that the instinct that humans have in telling if someone is cheating is real. However, he also says that we can be mistaken so it is important to not prematurely judge. Keep an eye out for other signs of infidelity if you're wary of your initial impression.
Be careful of yourself
While it may be easy to make these decisions from the outside, once our heart becomes involved, it can be easy to miss obvious signs of infidelity. To help keep your judgment on the right track, keep this rule of thumb in mind - if you have to convince yourself someone or something is right, chances are it's not. If you feel like you have to justify or make excuses for someone else, you are probably hiding teh truth.
If you don't trust your judgement, step away from the relationships to clear your head. Ask friends and family members to help give you advice - maybe their first impression can tell you what you missed.
This article is adapted and translated from the original, "Sólo necesitas 5 minutos y 1 técnica para descubrir la infidelidad según la ciencia." It was originally published on familias.com.
