In our society a big emphasis is put on certain areas of life. These are things such as being successful in your career, getting married, and having children. When none of these things happen for you, it feels like you missed your calling in life.
What is your purpose if you are not successful at making a living? What does it say about you if you cannot find someone to spend your life with? And who is supposed to carry on your legacy if you have no children? It's hard figuring out how to survive in a world where you feel you have no calling, but here are some suggestions.
A long, hard look
Really examine your life. Why do you feel you have no calling? Sure, you haven't checked the boxes mentioned above, but your life is not worthless or without meaning. Our experiences define us more than our success or number of children. See how far you've come, how much you've grown and what you have accomplished so far. Perhaps you moved out of your parents' house, or you backpacked around Europe one summer. These are things that help define who you are.
Be critical of your life. Are you standing in your way? Is there a reason you have not achieved the success you thought you would? Are you shy, scared or lazy? These attributes may be hard to accept about yourself, but the sooner you do, the sooner you can overcome these obstacles. Set goals, create a schedule, and change your attitude. Do not rely on others to make your life great. It's your responsibility.
Be ok with leaning
When you're feeling lost, find someone you can turn to for help, love and encouragement. Let your friends and family know what you are going through. They see things in you that you do not see in yourself. Ask for help or take their advice. The people that love you the most only want what is best for you.
Rock at something
Talents aren't always super obvious. Step out of your comfort zone, educate yourself and try things you may not have thought to do. Once you have found your talent, take the time to let it grow. Get the training and education you need. Even if it feels like the journey is long, what do you have to lose?
There are enough resources for people from all backgrounds to get the support and funding you need. Lots of entry level jobs also give education credit to help with the expense of going to school.
Seek out your own calling
When all else fails, create your own path. Do not let society or tradition dictate what having a calling means. Find what makes you happy, what you feel your purpose truly is, and know that you can determine your own calling in life. Just because you do not fit society's role, does not mean you are a failure. Embrace your uniqueness and be who you want to be.
